Knowing how and when to remove an autistic child’s pacifier can be a challenge, but it is important to remember that it is a necessary step in their development. Here are a few ideas to help make the process as smooth as possible:

Gradual reduction

Gradually reducing the amount of time the child is allowed to use the pacifier can help them adjust to life without it. For example, start by limiting use to nap time and bedtime, then gradually reduce the number of times it is allowed during the day.

Providing a substitute

Providing the child with a replacement item, such as a stuffed animal or blanket, can help ease the transition away from the pacifier.

Positive reinforcement

Positive reinforcement, such as verbal praise or a small reward, can be used to encourage the child to give up the pacifier. The moment your child hands over their pacifier should be a moment of celebration and praise.

Create a reward system

Create a reward system for the child where they earn a prize for every day or week they go without the pacifier.

Distraction

Distracting the child with a new activity or toy can help take their mind off the pacifier and make it easier for them to give it up.

Involve the child

Involve the child in the process of giving up the pacifier. For example, have them pick out a new toy or activity they would like to do once they have given up the pacifier.

Consistency

Be consistent in your approach, if you give in and give the pacifier back, you will undo the progress that you have made.

Professional help

If you are finding it difficult to remove the pacifier, consider seeking the help of a therapist or developmental pediatrician who can provide additional support and guidance.

The ‘pacifier fairy’

Depending on your child’s level of understanding you can build up to an event of the ‘pacifier fairy’ visiting your home.

When the pacifier fairy visits (overnight like the tooth fairy) she will swap all the pacifiers for a fun toy.

You can perhaps get your child involved by collecting all the pacifiers into a box ready for them to be swapped away.

If your child asks for a pacifier the next day you can explain they now have the toy instead.

Summary

As you will have established there is no definitive tactic how to remove an autistic child’s pacifier.

It’s important to remember that every child is different and what works for one may not work for another.

It’s also important to be patient and understanding, as it may take some time for the child to adjust to life without the pacifier.

Feel free to browse our archive for more information on raising an autistic child. Alternatively you can visit the US Autism Association’s website.