If you have an autistic toddler along with a newborn baby then you undoubtedly have a lot on your plate.

In this article we explain what to expect and give you some tips along the way.

Autistic sibling and newborn baby

Autistic toddlers, like any other child, may have a range of reactions and behaviours around newborn babies, depending on their individual personalities and developmental level.

Whilst every child is different here are some possible ways an autistic toddler may act around a newborn baby:

Curiosity

An autistic toddler may exhibit curiosity towards a newborn baby.

They may want to observe the baby closely, touch their soft skin or tiny fingers, and explore the new addition to the family.

Depending on their level of communication and understanding they may ask questions or make observations about the baby, showing genuine interest.

Their sensitivities may be impacted

Sensory experiences associated with a newborn baby, such as their cries, sounds, smells, and movements, may either fascinate or overwhelm them.

Some autistic toddlers may be sensitive to the baby’s crying and find it distressing, while others may be intrigued by the sounds and want to investigate further.

Anxiety or fear

Changes in routine and the arrival of a new family member may cause anxiety or fear in some autistic toddlers.

They may feel overwhelmed by the changes and may exhibit behaviors such as increased stimming (self-stimulatory behaviors like flapping or rocking), withdrawal, or meltdowns due to sensory overload or changes in their environment.

Protective instincts

Autistic toddlers may also exhibit protective instincts towards a newborn sibling. They may show concern and want to help take care of the baby by being gentle, patting the baby, or trying to comfort them.

They may develop a sense of responsibility towards the baby and show affection in their own unique ways.

Confusion

Depending on their developmental level and ability to understand, some autistic toddlers may have limited comprehension about the arrival of a newborn baby.

They may not fully grasp the concept of a new sibling and may exhibit confusion or disinterest.

It’s important to provide age-appropriate explanations and support their understanding in a way that suits their developmental level.

Imitation

Autistic toddlers often learn through imitation, and they may imitate the behaviours they see others do around the newborn baby.

They may imitate caregivers changing diapers, feeding the baby, or comforting the baby, showing a keen sense of observation and a desire to mimic.

Inappropriate behaviour

Something to be aware of is that autistic toddlers may have personal boundaries and may need clear instructions and guidance on how to interact with the newborn baby.

They may need reminders about gentle touch, not invading the baby’s personal space, and understanding the baby’s fragility.

Parents should respect the autistic toddler’s boundaries and provide gentle guidance on appropriate behaviour.

Summary – Autistic toddler with a newborn

As with so much with autistic children their reaction to a newborn baby can vary wildly. Undoubtedly it will be a change to their known routines so it may take time for them to adjust.

The autistic toddler may show increased interest or be completely oblivious to the new addition.

You will have to monitor your autistic child’s behaviour but speaking from experience bringing a baby to the household is overall an enjoyable addition for all.