Knowing how to tell an autistic child off can be a challenge for parents in our position. In this article we give you some tactics to try.

Discipline and autism

Disciplining or telling off a child can be a challenging task for all parents.

When it comes to an autistic child, it requires a unique approach that considers their individual needs and differences.

Although it is a challenge, discipline plays a vital role in helping autistic children navigate the world around them.

We all live in a world of rules and our goal with our child is to prepare them as best as possible to succeed in this structured society.

This article aims to provide guidance and effective strategies for disciplining an autistic child with compassion, understanding, and respect.

Understand your child

Before embarking on discipline strategies, it is crucial to gain a comprehensive understanding of autism and how it impacts your specific child.

It may well be likely that your child’s poor behaviour is as a result of their condition.

But the trick, and something difficult to master is recognising what is down to their autism and what isn’t.

Be consistent with rules and discapline

Autistic children often thrive in structured and predictable environments.

Consistency is therefore key when it comes to discipline.

Establish clear rules and expectations, and maintain a consistent routine.

Clearly communicate these rules using whatever tactic works for your child.

Use visual supports

Visual supports, such as visual schedules, social stories, and visual cues, can greatly assist an autistic child in understanding and following rules.

They can also help them understand when and why they are being punished.

These tools help them comprehend abstract concepts, anticipate transitions, and understand the consequences of their actions.

An example would be to use emotion cards to highlight when you are angry with them. Equally the emotion cards can be used to highlight when you are happy.

You could even physically hold an emotion card close to the ‘scene of the crime’.

For example if your child has made a mess, stand over the mess and draw attention to an angry or sad emotion card.

Use simple language

When telling your child off, use simple and direct language.

Autistic children often respond better to clear and concise communication.

Break down complex instructions into smaller steps and provide visual cues if necessary.

Avoid using metaphors, sarcasm, or ambiguous language that can confuse or overwhelm them.

Seize on progress

Autistic children respond well to positive reinforcement.

Praise and rewards can be powerful motivators. Recognise and celebrate their achievements, even the small ones.

Offering specific and immediate praise reinforces positive behaviour and encourages them to continue displaying those behaviours.

Redirection

Redirecting your child is a valuable strategy when addressing challenging behaviours.

Rather than focusing solely on negatives, guide the child towards more appropriate alternatives.

Identify the triggers that lead to challenging behaviour and proactively offer alternative activities or coping strategies that are more desirable and socially acceptable.

Summary – How to tell an autistic child off

Disciplining an autistic child requires an approach that acknowledges and embraces their unique characteristics.

It is important for your child to understand the telling off and link it to the negative behaviour.

Remember, discipline should always be accompanied by love, understanding, and patience.