We cover all kinds of behaviours on this site, today it is one on the nicer side, an autistic child who loves hugs.

We explore what may be behind the behaviour and what parents can do if the hugging becomes inappropriate.

Autism and hugs

Like so much with ASD, an individuals reaction to hugging will vary wildly.

Some children for example will avoid hugs like the plague, others however find them pleasurable.

Here are some reasons why an autistic child may love hugging.

A form of communication

Hugs serve as a powerful non-verbal communication tool.

As we know, many autistic children find it difficult to express their emotions verbally.

With this being the case, physical touch can be an invaluable means of connection.

Hugs become almost a universal language, allowing kids to share love and affection without the need for words.

Fondness for pressure

Autistic children may also seek hugs as a way to regulate their sensory experiences.

The deep pressure of an embrace has a calming effect, helping to soothe their nervous system and reduce anxiety.

This sensory input can be especially beneficial in moments of stress or sensory overload.

Hugs can end up providing a simple yet effective coping mechanism at times of stress.

Sense of security

Hugs can provide a sense of security for children with autism.

In a world that can be overwhelming for autistic children due to sensory sensitivities, the gentle pressure of a hug can create a comforting boundary.

The embrace signals safety, offering a reassuring anchor amidst an unpredictable and sometimes difficult life.

Routine

An autistic child who loves hugs may have simply built up a routine of the behaviour.

Routines can become embedded very quickly with autistic children and a hug could be one such activity.

If a child has for example gotten in the habit of hugging everyone when they come home from school, it could evolve to hugging every time they enter a room.

From there the routine could evolve to hugging consistently during any given day.

What are the problems with an autistic child who loves hugs?

Lets be honest here, out of all of the behaviours an autistic child can engage in, hugging is one of the more pleasant to deal with.

However with that said there may be occasions whereby an autistic child starts hugging at inappropriate times.

For example, one parent told the story of their daughter who will hug nearly everyone she meets.

Some people with autism struggle with the social do’s and dont’s of everyday life. Hugging everyone over the course of a day is an example of this lack of social awareness.

If that is the case with your child here are some tips;

Teach them about social boundaries

Social boundaries can be a confusing concept for children. Depending on your child’s levels of understanding you have to somehow get the message across.

Social stories can be helpful here as using visual supports you can demonstrate who they should hug and who they shouldn’t.

Provide hugging lists

Following on from the above, some children respond well to clear directions.

You could consider sitting with your child and making a list together of all the people whom hugging is appropriate.

Choose a range of family members and close friends providing images where possible.

Distract

If you think your child is going to engage in some inappropriate hugging, have distractions up your sleeve.

Sometimes a quick diversion away from the behaviour can work wonders. Find some toys which you can carry around that your child responds instantly to.

Then if you are in an environment whereby you think they will start hugging inappropriately, break out the toys.

Provide praise

If your child has refrained from hugging inappropriately, make sure they know you’re proud of them.

You could subtly whisper in their ear, explaining that you noticed they had stuck to the ‘hugging list’ or similar.

Summary – An autistic child who loves hugs

It’s important to note that while many autistic children adore hugs, each individual is unique.

Some may prefer different forms of physical contact or may need more space.

Paying attention to your child’s cues and respecting their boundaries ensures that your affectionate gestures align with their comfort level.

For those autistic children who love hugs, the warmth of an embrace holds a special significance.

It goes beyond a simple display of affection; it becomes a lifeline of comfort, communication, and emotional regulation.

Embracing your child’s love for hugs strengthens the bond you share.

Some kids just need to be alive to the fact that there is a time for hugging and a time for being more distant.

Any tips or ideas?

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